The more something makes you feel great, the more you will miss it when it’s gone. Small level, a simple crush on that one you have deep conversations with. They won’t be there later and with it, comes a longing. The amount of feelings of love are replaced with about that much emptiness.
On a heavy level, the drug that makes you feel so great, will cause that much in discomfort when it wears off. Addiction is just when you give in to what feels good at the cost of your well being.
My theory is the same as what some ancient religions already figured out thousands of years ago. It says wanting is the problem. I feel suffering is built directly into the pleasure.
So for as great as a lover can elate your heart. To the same depths your heart will be broken. So as great as the high you feel, the withdrawal will be as low.
According to this logic, with self discipline I can force myself to control the things I want. Than I am pre paying for feeling good later. It is like paying the effort to go through working out, and the relaxation is the reward. Not eating longer is rewarded with the pleasure of the food when you finally get it. Depriving yourself of your crush to be alone makes it that much better when you get your love back in your arms.
How great it will feel to read music when you stick with piano lessons, and go through the pain of learning the notes one at a time.
It just all comes down to prepaying. There is no free rides. I skip that road of least resistance.
This message is so damn good, because it applies to countless situations.